When we know blame and shame are truly negative and destructive, why do we still indulge? Well, the embarrassing truth is, we actually think blame or shame offers us advantages we want. Before we will really give up shame and blame, we need a larger perspective, a deeper understanding of how our lives really work, and what blame and shame really do. To face that requires courage and strength of character. But here’s the thing: not facing it means pain all around. So if we’re serious about our smile, we’re truly much better off facing the real effects of blame and shame. It opens the door to liberation. see article