Once we've been hurt in love, the usual self-protection reflex is to pull in our horns, and love less (consciously or unconsciously). It's a natural reaction in the short run, but terrribly unhealthy in the long run. We hurt ourselves when we withdraw from intimacy. And what's worse, we remain vulnerable to being hurt by others!

Fortunately, there IS a way we can protect ourselves from emotional harm, yet still be the kind of people -- the soft, feeling, giving people -- we would like to be. This article explains the surprising yet simple technique of self-protection for lovers. see article