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Introduction

We owe it to ourselves to acknowledge, objectively, the beneficial effects of raising our energy through sexual awakening, because the list is astounding. Here we go...

Feeling more alive

People will pay money -- or do almost anything -- to feel more alive: jump out of airplanes, perform on stage, jog, swim in the ocean. And sex, of course, belongs high on that list. Truly, this is a big favor that the inner animal can do for us: help us feel -- and in fact BE -- more alive.

There's no doubt that sexual energy, running through the body, lights it up like a Christmas tree. The boost in radiance can be so powerful, people notice it immediately...

Higher energy improves ALL of our functions

All our senses rise and fall according to the energy level in our bodies. Therefore, higher energy makes all of our senses keener, and enhances the functionality of all our functions.

Achieving purity and radiance through sex

And there's nothing quite like sex -- sex in a good spirit, at least, and of real intensity -- to slow down the runaway mind, to wash away cares, and to make a complicated person simple, clean, and pure. More like a virgin. Peace!

Not all sex is created equal

But of course, not all sex is created anywhere NEAR equal. Mediocre sex -- quickie sex, sex for release, sex for modest consolation, or just plain lousy sex -- has little or no uplifting effect, little afterglow. No significant benefit.

It takes steady heating, applied OVER TIME, to warm up a cold room. The human body can be a big, cold room. If our sexual heater is turned on, set to a high temperature, and kept running for a while, the residual energy (afterglow) will almost certainly EXCEED the starting energy level -- leaving us brighter, more alive, and more conscious.

Increased well-being and self confidence

Naturally, when we feel low-energy, flat, or dead inside, we suffer a severely diminished feeling of well-being.

And the reverse is true: When we feel vibrant and alive, we feel self-confident. We feel more attractive, because we KNOW that people appreciate energy and aliveness. And we feel CAPABLE:

Surely, the on-top-of-the-world feeling that results from heightened energy numbers among the greatest joys of living.

Enhanced healing power

Haven't you heard people say, "She's/he's got GOOD hands." Energy flows from the hands of a person who is vibrantly alive, and that touch feels delicious to others. And in lovemaking -- particularly in the heightened vibrancy and vitality that accompanies true passion -- people may have positively electric bodies, and supercharged touch. Add to the natural benefits of an energetic touch a LOVING/HEALING INTENTION, and you have a very healing touch.

Everyone loves -- and NEEDS -- energy and aliveness. But in order to give energy to others, we've got to have plenty of it ourselves. Sex play can provide that superabundance of juice.

And, we absolutely don't need physical touch to share energy. Energy radiates. If we're radiant with higher energy, people feel it and are uplifted by it regardless. So, the residual energy in the aftermath of sex, or in a sexually alive person, creates a healing/uplifting effect WITH or WITHOUT the laying on of hands.

How vital and human powers hook up to Higher Power

The sacred sex function makes a fine energy-generating station. And the heightened energy and aliveness awakened in sex play has an even greater potential for healing than what a human with "good hands" could provide. Higher energy allows us to make a spiritual connection to God's love and energy, and to channel THAT. And THAT is far more healing than any exclusively human power could be. Here is how it works:

Through cultivating our sexual passion, we can raise the energy and sensitivity in ourselves. When they get high enough, our energy and sensitivity awaken us to consciousness of God all around. And, that living awareness of God's presence connects us to the higher power of His love. Once we are connected to it, God's love can flow THROUGH us to those God loves -- everyone!

Social sex, solo sex, and spiritual sex

A lot of people, intuiting the power of sex, legitimately wonder, "How am I gonna get this wonderful, uplifting sex happening? I don't have anybody..."

Obviously, not everybody has a relationship that includes sex. And furthermore, even those who are coupled may not have a relationship that supports MUCH sex -- or that supports really GOOD sex, energizing and uplifting sex. It's a matter of the sexual potential and sexual self-mastery of any given individual. Those things may not be simple, easy, or quick to change.

So it's time now to think a little outside of the conventional box. A lot of people know they can have better sex by themselves than they have with their present partner -- or with any partner. Whoa! THAT may be a controversial fact, but it is still the truth -- and everybody RECOGNIZES it. And, despite the taboos and shame in this area, solo sex may not be inappropriate, unwise, or even un-spiritual!

Spirituality and sex: a match made in heaven

Consider these writings from people who were, (a) unmarried, (b) not promiscuous, and (c) saints.

Some people may fault us for reading these poems too literally, rather than as poetic imagery. Possibly, they might consider us superficial, or even unspiritual, on that account. We would argue that it is twisting the truth to turn something relatively straightforward into mere allegory. We feel that de-sexualizing the saints is more a matter of preference than fact.

A large body of testimony and experience, from people all over the world, suggests that mystic experience frequently includes experiences of an entirely, unabashedly SEXUAL nature. This evidence shows that often, sexual awakening and spiritual awakening are often SIMULTANEOUS.

We are fully satisfied that God, Him or Herself, can be VERY sexy -- insofar as God frequently makes wondrous use of sexuality as part of the larger process of mystical experience. It is in that spirit that we take this poem from Saint Teresa of Avila:

Perhaps people would be wise to completely rethink this matter of sex -- INCLUDING sex outside the context of partnership. When we do, let's think about it not in terms of self-degradation and something that's going to make us blind and stunt our growth, but rather, as a genuine, potent, valid, God-approved spiritual aid. In that light, consider this beautiful love poem to God:

Transforming conventional sex to sacred sex

Once we manage to get past our own personal and cultural prejudices, we encounter another very real problem: habit. The conventional use of sex, solo or social, is useless, or less than useless, for upliftment. Quickie sexual encounters amount to little or nothing -- or even LESS than nothing, since they are so depressing to the spirit. Most of the time, masturbation is no better: It is something people do, not to create or enjoy higher energy, but primarily for energy release.

Sex for the primary purpose of release from energy is the exact opposite of what higher sex, be it solo or social, is all about. For sacred sex, we're going to have to change those habits, and take a whole different approach.

Getting on and staying on

In sex jargon, we hear the expression GETTING IT ON -- "we're going to get it on." And when referring to orgasm, people use the expression, "getting off."

Ordinary sex expresses a desire to enjoy intense but fleeting pleasure, and then to end that very pleasure with a desire for energy release and relief. The result? A little flash of aliveness, gone as fast as a splash of water on a hot skillet. Sacred sex aims to get on, and NOT get off. In this difference of intention, you see the exact and profound difference between the ordinary and sacred uses of sex. One way is to be relieved of desire; the other is to fan desire into a mighty fire and burn it to infinity, transcending ego itself.

In the sacred use of sex, the goal is to create energy not for fleeting pleasure, and certainly not for "relief" from energy itself -- but rather to have energy, to live with energy, to continue as energy, always. The most beneficial use of sex is to use it for getting on, and STAYING on, that higher plane of energy, vibrancy -- and yes, higher pleasure -- as God would have it be. You don't WANT to get off -- you just want to stay on.

The essential thrust of desire is to become infinity -- to GO to infinity, REACH to infinity, and LIVE in infinity. To become TRULY alive, and stay perpetually alive like a mighty oak tree. Long live your aliveness!

Many people may be thinking, "What are you saying here, exactly? Are you telling us that if we want to engage in sacred sex, we are never to be satisfied or gratified? Does it mean we can never get off?"

That's an excellent question! Orgasm or no orgasm is NOT the crucial issue here, not the maker or breaker of sacred sex. The important thing is one's tolerance for higher energy IN GENERAL. We will explain more about that in a minute. But first, since you brought it up, let's deal with orgasm directly.

Everyone recognizes, honestly, that all human beings do have certain fairly small limits in their tolerance for desiring. Blowing off extra energy now and then is nothing to be terribly ashamed of. The natural dance step of life is two steps forward and one step back. Jog, eat cookies! Jog, eat cookies! No blame, shame, or guilt should be associated with that normal pattern.

But we can also honestly admit that the higher a person's "towards" force or desiring force, the happier the person will be, and the stronger his or her connection to a lover, to all others, and to God Himself. Do you want to be happy, connected, and full of desire, or not? Of course you do! But more precisely, what percentage of the time would you like to enjoy that magnetism? It's up to individuals to determine, by the way they handle desire and energy, what level of connection they actually want to enjoy as their PREPONDERANT mode of living and relating.

Again, this is not all about orgasm or no orgasm. The craving for orgasmic release is just a symptom of a larger tendency to wish to avoid higher energy, or to confine energy to lower levels. If we keep the body on the sexual burner long enough, residual energy will exist even IF we have orgasm in the end. Therefore, the most essential factors are:

The two most essential factors in effective energy raising

Unquestionably, for best results sacred sex requires greater-than-usual tolerance of energy. In fact, the achievement of higher levels of well-being always requires a measure of healthy self-discipline. For example, wisdom at Thanksgiving means making sure you don't eat too much, so you can still walk around and feel like a human being after the feast!

Many people think they just love energy, the more the merrier. But pay attention to their handling of intensity in sex, and you may notice these common anti-intensity patterns at work:

In real life, if and when the energy actually DOES rise to the point where it could be uplifting and energizing, many people, being unused to handling that level of intensity, are liable to "freak out."

Fortunately, for this move into a more sacred practice of sex, normal patterns don't need to be TOTALLY changed all at once. Habit can be upgraded progressively to very good effect. Perfection isn't required. Better IS better. Just as better health is preferable to worse health, MORE energy is better than LESS.

Improvement in areas of ingrained habit can take time. But it need not take too much time. You may not WANT to take a lot of precious time getting where you want to go. If you wish to move ahead at a speed that will satisfy your own heartfelt desire for progress, bring maximum consciousness to the dance of your life. Watching each of your steps, notice where they carry you. Adjust as needed. Take as many steps forward as possible, and take as few as possible backwards.

You will find, as you attempt this, that there are a variety of factors involved in the mastery of sacred sex -- some of them social, most of them internal. A discussion of those factors is beyond the scope of this article. For now, simply use this rule of thumb: WHATEVER effectively limits the intensity or duration of sexual energy-raising may also, at least in certain respects, limit its spiritual usefulness. People who wish to discover the value of sacred sex must find in themselves the diligence needed to locate and overcome the particular impediments that exist in their own case.

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